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Au Pair in America: How to become an au pair

Written by Zara Sands | Jul 6, 2026 12:20:21 PM

How to Become an Au Pair: A step-by-step guide

Dreaming of living abroad, improving your English and experiencing American culture firsthand? Becoming an au pair could be the perfect opportunity. As an au pair, you'll live with a host family, provide childcare and become part of a cultural exchange programme that helps you grow personally and professionally.

If you're wondering how to become an au pair, here's everything you need to know.

 

What is an au pair?

An au pair is a young adult who travels to another country to provide childcare while experiencing a new culture. In the United States, au pairs live with a host family, receive a weekly stipend and have the opportunity to study, travel and build lifelong connections.

Unlike a traditional childcare job, being an au pair is a cultural exchange experience designed to help both families and participants learn from one another.

Step 1: Check the requirements 

Before applying, make sure you meet the programme requirements. While specific qualifications may vary by country, most au pair programmes require participants to:

  • Be between 18 and 26 years old
  • Have childcare experience
  • Hold a valid driver's licence
  • Have a good level of English
  • Be in good health
  • Have a clean criminal background
  • Be excited about living with a host family and caring for children

Step 2: Gain childcare experience 

Childcare experience is one of the most important parts of your application.

You can gain experience through:

  • Babysitting
  • Tutoring
  • Coaching sports teams
  • Working at summer camps
  • Volunteering with children
  • Teaching or assisting in classrooms

The more experience you have with children of different ages, the more attractive your profile will be to host families. To find out more about experience required, click here.

Step 3: Choose a reputable au pair agency 

Working with a trusted agency can make the process much easier. Agencies help guide you through the application, matching process, visa requirements and your year abroad.

Look for an agency that offers:

  • Personalised support
  • Thorough host family screening
  • Training resources
  • Local support while you're abroad
  • A strong reputation and positive reviews

Step 4: Complete your application 

Most applications include:

  • Personal information
  • Childcare experience details
  • References
  • Photos
  • Video introducing yourself
  • A personal essay or letter to host families
  • Medical and background checks

Take time to create a strong profile. Host families want to learn about your personality, interests, childcare experience and why you want to become an au pair.


Step 5: Interview with host families 

Once your profile is approved, you'll begin connecting with potential host families. With Au Pair in America, you will use our Mutual Matching process meaning you have control over the family you match with.

During interviews, be prepared to discuss:

  • Your childcare experience
  • Your daily routines and responsibilities
  • Driving experience
  • Expectations for communication and family life
  • Your goals for the programme

Don't be afraid to ask questions. Finding the right match is important for both you and the family.

Step 6: Find your match 

Choosing a host family is one of the most exciting parts of the journey.

Consider factors such as:

  • Children's ages
  • Family lifestyle
  • Location
  • Schedule expectations
  • Shared interests and values

A successful au pair experience starts with a strong relationship built on communication, trust and mutual respect.

Step 7: Prepare for your year ahead

After matching with a host family, you'll complete the final steps before departure.

These may include:

  • Visa paperwork
  • Orientation or training sessions
  • Travel arrangements
  • Setting goals for your year abroad

This is also a great time to learn more about American culture and connect with other future au pairs.

What are the benefits of being an au pair? 

Becoming an au pair offers much more than childcare experience. Benefits often include:

  • Living in the United States
  • Improving your English skills
  • Earning a weekly stipend
  • Taking educational courses
  • Traveling during your free time
  • Building international friendships
  • Gaining valuable life and career skills

Many former au pairs say the experience helped them become more independent, confident and adaptable.

Is becoming an au pair right for you? 

If you love working with children, enjoy meeting new people and want to experience life in another country, becoming an au pair could be an incredible opportunity.

From gaining childcare experience to exploring new places and cultures, an au pair year can be one of the most rewarding experiences of your life.

Ready to start your journey? The first step is learning about the requirements and creating a profile that showcases who you are and what makes you a great future au pair.